Ok, so I realize it has been over a month since I (B) posted anything. Over the last few weeks I had a hard time coming up with an amusing post because, well, I wasn't having awkward dates or interactions with creepers and duds. Instead, I have gone out five times with organic coffee, and have had a great time each time. We have been progressing slowly but surely (partly slowly b/c I managed to travel to Baltimore, sprain my ankle, and get strep throat since we met and he is busy with a new business). However, he has been pretty creative in his date ideas (roller derby, a cheap circus, an improv show) and we have been having a lot of fun.
So, like M, I am relieved to say that my Match account is currently closed. I gave online dating a chance, and I'll see where it goes from here!
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Monday, March 5, 2012
I Kissed Online Dating Goodbye!
I (M) am pretty excited to say that I have killed my online dating account. Freedommmmmm! Kissing online dating goodbye is a big sigh of relief. No more winks. No more messages. No more profile views. No more chatty IMers.
So, what have I learned... Well, honestly, about two and a half weeks ago, I would have said, I learned that online dating is not for me. I would have said that I learned that I am not in a place to meet someone this way. I would have said that the online dating men in my age range are not my type. I would have said that enduring the creepers and the pick-up line emails was not worth the small handful of good emails and nice guys and dates. I would have said that it is so unnatural to meet someone this way. But, it is not two and a half weeks ago. It is today. And today, the most skeptical one has a confession to make: I might like a boy. And I think he might like me back. And online dating might have been a success for me.
Mango Smoothie and I went out yesterday (Sunday because I had Monday off work, thanks Casimir Pulaski). Met in Oak Park for dinner and a movie. We were meeting at 7 and I was ready at... 5:15. Ha. Luckily, he texted me at 5:40 and said that if I happened to arrive much earlier than 7, he would be at the Starbucks down the street. I took the opportunity to flirt a bit and encourage him to keep his eye out for a cute Asian girl. So I took a few more deep breaths and then hit the road and met him at 6:45.
Dinner was great, conversation felt very comfortable and I remember laughing a lot. We grabbed after dinner coffee because we had plenty of time to kill before the movie. Again, good conversation. We covered why he was doing online dating - mostly to "try it out" and because in his experience, he felt that there had to be someone better than the girls he was meeting at bars and in his friend group. I explained my reasons for online dating and how I attempted to sabotage my account. He responded by saying that my ridiculous standards was what he liked about my profile - he could tell that I did not NEED a boyfriend, and he liked that. Okay enough recounting the conversation. Movie was mediocre, but we had fun with it. No hand-holding despite my efforts to leave it out there.
So, when I got home, I got a text saying that he wouldn't be opposed to a study date tomorrow (Monday, again, thanks Casimir Pulaski). That would be today. So today, got on the Metra, lunched at Panera, tried to read, played some cards (I lost), went for a walk, talked, laughed... Considering we didn't really do anything, it was pretty great. A fourth date is planned for Friday and there has been some discussion along the lines of things are going good and we're both pretty happy about that.
So what have I learned... Anything is possible. Even for the most skeptical person. And yes, Hollywood, I will sell you my story, so long as you cast Joseph Gordon Levitt as my counterpart.
And with that, I believe I have sufficiently contributed to the blog and thank you all for reading.
-M
So, what have I learned... Well, honestly, about two and a half weeks ago, I would have said, I learned that online dating is not for me. I would have said that I learned that I am not in a place to meet someone this way. I would have said that the online dating men in my age range are not my type. I would have said that enduring the creepers and the pick-up line emails was not worth the small handful of good emails and nice guys and dates. I would have said that it is so unnatural to meet someone this way. But, it is not two and a half weeks ago. It is today. And today, the most skeptical one has a confession to make: I might like a boy. And I think he might like me back. And online dating might have been a success for me.
Mango Smoothie and I went out yesterday (Sunday because I had Monday off work, thanks Casimir Pulaski). Met in Oak Park for dinner and a movie. We were meeting at 7 and I was ready at... 5:15. Ha. Luckily, he texted me at 5:40 and said that if I happened to arrive much earlier than 7, he would be at the Starbucks down the street. I took the opportunity to flirt a bit and encourage him to keep his eye out for a cute Asian girl. So I took a few more deep breaths and then hit the road and met him at 6:45.
Dinner was great, conversation felt very comfortable and I remember laughing a lot. We grabbed after dinner coffee because we had plenty of time to kill before the movie. Again, good conversation. We covered why he was doing online dating - mostly to "try it out" and because in his experience, he felt that there had to be someone better than the girls he was meeting at bars and in his friend group. I explained my reasons for online dating and how I attempted to sabotage my account. He responded by saying that my ridiculous standards was what he liked about my profile - he could tell that I did not NEED a boyfriend, and he liked that. Okay enough recounting the conversation. Movie was mediocre, but we had fun with it. No hand-holding despite my efforts to leave it out there.
So, when I got home, I got a text saying that he wouldn't be opposed to a study date tomorrow (Monday, again, thanks Casimir Pulaski). That would be today. So today, got on the Metra, lunched at Panera, tried to read, played some cards (I lost), went for a walk, talked, laughed... Considering we didn't really do anything, it was pretty great. A fourth date is planned for Friday and there has been some discussion along the lines of things are going good and we're both pretty happy about that.
So what have I learned... Anything is possible. Even for the most skeptical person. And yes, Hollywood, I will sell you my story, so long as you cast Joseph Gordon Levitt as my counterpart.
And with that, I believe I have sufficiently contributed to the blog and thank you all for reading.
-M
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Incoherent Mumblings
It's been a while since I've posted and that's mostly because there hasn't been much to report on. The world of online dating hasn't had much to offer lately. I had another first date 2 weeks ago with Yoo-hoo, a perfectly normal 32 year old working in the internet industry. We had exchanged some emails, had one awkward phone conversation, and set out to meet for dinner on a Wednesday night. It was a typical first date full on conversation about our jobs, travels, families, and upbringings. He was nice, however when the conversation shifted to religion it was very clear that we had differing views. It was a fine dinner with a gentle hug good-bye in the parking lot and we parted ways. I'm becoming a semi-pro at first dates!
In other more entertaining online dating news, this morning I received a voice-mail from none other than our favorite Crate-and-Barrel kissing friend Merlot! I was the recipient of a drunk dial! The message consisted of a 'Hello Dear,' a confession of being drunk, some incoherent mumblings, a request to talk, and a 'well, see you later.' It offered me a good laugh to start my Thursday and sadly for him, I'm not going to respond. Do real people respond to drunk dials?
This adventure is quickly coming to a close. It was fun while it lasted, but the thrill of the ride has faded away. I've only checked every 4 or 5 days for the last few weeks and haven't had communication with anyone. Online dating is a weird world, but I'm glad that I ventured in again, sure makes for a good winter hobby. Here's to 11 more days and then onto the adventure of real world dating! J
In other more entertaining online dating news, this morning I received a voice-mail from none other than our favorite Crate-and-Barrel kissing friend Merlot! I was the recipient of a drunk dial! The message consisted of a 'Hello Dear,' a confession of being drunk, some incoherent mumblings, a request to talk, and a 'well, see you later.' It offered me a good laugh to start my Thursday and sadly for him, I'm not going to respond. Do real people respond to drunk dials?
This adventure is quickly coming to a close. It was fun while it lasted, but the thrill of the ride has faded away. I've only checked every 4 or 5 days for the last few weeks and haven't had communication with anyone. Online dating is a weird world, but I'm glad that I ventured in again, sure makes for a good winter hobby. Here's to 11 more days and then onto the adventure of real world dating! J
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